Mom To Mom Advice – Tipping Question

Mom To Mom Advice – Tipping Question

Question – My son’s Bar Mitzvah is coming up in a few weeks and I can’t find any “tipping guidelines.” Does anyone have any ideas?

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6 Responses to “Mom To Mom Advice – Tipping Question”

  1. raine says:

    How much for the dancers, photo assistant, DJ, Maitre D, etc, thanks

    • Sheri says:

      It’s best to ask your entertainment company what they recommend for the dancers, and DJ. Ask your photographer about the assistant and ask the venue about the maitre D. Good luck!

  2. Tara says:

    Once you figure out who you will be tipping and how much you will be giving them, I definitely recommend making envelopes for each person ahead of time. This will save you lots of time and confusion at the end of the night. It will also ensure you don’t forget/miss anyone. Someone suggested this to me before my son’s Mitzvah and it was a great idea. I will absolutely do it again for my daughter’s upcoming Mitzvah.

  3. Wendy says:

    We did something a little different and perhaps a little more risky than most… My husband decided to tip everyone in advance. His strategy was to “take care of” everyone ahead of time with generous tips thinking that we’d receive great service throughout the night…and we did! Obviously there’s no guarantee that this will work for every vendor, but a handshake, a wink and an envelope with cash did seem to be enough of an incentive to ensure our vendors would do their very best!

  4. Gail says:

    I think it’s very smart to go to your celebration with the envelopes labeled and stuffed with the appropriate $. You can wait to seal the envelopes in case you want to make last minute adjustments, and it’s wise to bring additional cash, in case you forgot anyone, or if your DJ company, photographer or gaming company brings on additional assistants you did not know about in advance.
    I did ask my vendors for suggestions, but I also asked my friends, and then used my judgment to determine what I was comfortable with. This can all add up a decent amount of money.
    Here’s a list of who I tipped:
    Photographer (unless they were the owner of the company)
    Photographer’s assistant/(2)
    Every attendant that came with gaming company or photo station you have
    Every dancer
    The DJ
    The Emcee
    Maitre D (if your venue had one specific person in charge)
    As far as wait staff, coat check and valet – you need to check with your venue as to whether your caterer includes their tip (and gives it to them), in his fee to you. If not, they should be tipped as well.

  5. Susie says:

    I asked each of my vendors to recommend the appropriate tipping amount for their staff. I then had all the money in envelopes and labeled with each vendors name so at the end of my daughter’s celebration, I was all set and ready!

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