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Mom To Mom Advice – Theme Question

Question – Does every Bar Bat Mitzvah celebration have to have a theme? What are some easy ones?

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9 Responses to “Mom To Mom Advice – Theme Question”

  1. Carol says:

    We have custom imprinted thousands of party favors for our customers over the years and many have not done a theme and many have. Sometimes a customer may just want initials and date in a unique font. You can do whatever you would like. Carol,

  2. Lisa says:

    I found that working with a party planner/decorator was helpful for brainstorming for theme ideas. Sometimes the “experts” can help narrow down a theme idea with your child better than you can! We worked with someone who chatted with my son for a while to learn about his interests. She then showed him several samples of work she had done before. Together we decided that the theme would be all of my son’s “favorite things.” It was a fun theme that fell into place naturally because it was truly his idea!

  3. Jen says:

    No, you don’t have to have a theme. Sometimes a color scheme is fun to work with too, and it’s easy! My daughter didn’t have a theme per se, but she loves color! We used her favorite colors of pink, purple and blue and incorporated those colors with different textures throughout the room. The table cloths were alternating solid colors that had a glitter sheen to them and gave the room some sparkle, which she loved. We added varying color napkins on each table for added color. In the lounge section for the kids, we added colorful throw pillows to the sofas and chairs that really popped.

  4. donna says:

    My son’s upcoming Bar Mitzvah does not have a theme or color. He wanted a club so we are having it at a club. There are some glow hi top tables but not too many. He just wasn’t into any theme. It is all about him so the décor will have blow up photos of him around the room etc.

  5. VB says:

    No – the theme is your child is celebrating an important milestone – that is what matters. Pick a color and run with it. My oldest child was lime green and we made the room glow green and everything else too. Next child was turquoise and we used that everywhere. Centerpieces had to do with child. 1st had giant bookworms and the next had her initials.
    The importance of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah shouldn’t be swallowed up by the theme… unless it is just an excuse for a party…

  6. Cheryl says:

    We are not having a theme for our upcoming celebration. The goal for me is to incorporate all that my daughter loves and everything about her into her celebration. For instance, she likes nature photography–so our placecards will have her photography as the background. She also enjoys tennis, so we will have some tennis mixed into the decor. Our consistent ‘theme’ if you would call it that, is the color scheme. Otherwise, I think anything goes! Good luck with the planning!

  7. Ellie says:

    Think about the things your child is into. If he loves to sing, maybe do an American Idol theme. If she is into sports, maybe do an Olympics theme.

    Another idea is to use your child’s initials and incorporate them as the theme.

  8. Amy says:

    I don’t think your Mitzvah celebration MUST have a theme, but some type of theme does make the party seem more cohesive. It can just be based on a color, name or initial. It’s nice to have something to tie all elements together. I think the most popular are sports, candy, tv, movies, and hollywood.

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