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Mom To Mom Advice – Thank You Note Etiquette

Question – Does my daughter send a “thank you” to a guest who attended our celebration but didn’t give a gift? 


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7 Responses to “Mom To Mom Advice – Thank You Note Etiquette”

  1. Jill says:

    Yes! A “thank you” for attending is proper etiquette and may serve as a gentle reminder in case they forgot to send a gift, or if the gift was lost in the shuffle of the event.

  2. Ellie says:

    I love the idea of sending a thank you note (for attending) to a guest that forgot to send or bring a gift to the affair. It’s a very subtle way to remind them of their negligence. Maybe it’s the reminder they needed!

  3. Gail says:

    I think the right thing to do is to thank the guest for attending and celebrating with you!
    If you don’t mention the gift, they may then realize they didn’t send a gift.

  4. Denise says:

    As long as it done in a nice way. You don’t want to make the guest feel bad but you never know. They could’ve given a gift that has been lost. In the chaos of the night it is possible to get misplaced.It can definitely be a sticky situation!

  5. Kristin says:

    It’s so frustrating to be left in this situation. I think I would put this thank you note at the bottom of the pile. Maybe a gift will arrive before you go to write it?

  6. Sarah says:

    This is a tough one! Hopefully this doesn’t happen to my son this coming year, but I would think that a thank you note should not be sent. Maybe if they don’t receive the thank you note, it will give the family a small hint that they forgot to send something? Are the rules the same as a wedding? Do you have up to a year to give a gift? Hope others have comments on this….

  7. Susan says:

    Sometimes the kids forget to bring a gift if it wasn’t sent back with the RSVP. I would take the high road and send a carefully worded thank you note which thanks the guest for attending. Hopefully the person receiving the note will realize that nothing was said about a gift and send one! It’s unbelievable to think someone would do that intentionally, but they do 🙁

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