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Mom To Mom Advice  – Email RSVP Question

Question  РWhat are the pros and cons of using an email RSVP vs. the traditional card to be mailed?


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12 Responses to “Mom To Mom Advice – Email RSVP Question”

  1. Sheri says:

    I used both. Formal RSVP for the party and for my out of town guests had another card imprinted to invite them for Friday night dinner. Only one guest replied by email.

  2. Jill says:

    I must admit that keeping the cards as a keepsake is something our family really enjoyed! The comments and well wishes were so heartwarming and thoughtful. There are some really good pros and cons in the comments already. I would add that in terms of cost savings, for our second son’s Bar Mitzvah we used an RSVP postcard. It was a little different than the traditional reply card and envelope. It was less expensive to print and required only a postcard stamp.

  3. Lisa says:

    I have personally used both methods for an RSVP. For my daughter’s Bat Mitzvah, I chose to use an email because I was having a separate kids and adult party. I had a general service invitation with 2 separate inserts, so to cut down on the amount of inserts, I chose an email to make it easier.

  4. Gail says:

    The obvious reason to use email is to save money (printing of response card, and postage) and save trees.
    But – it’s also a great opportunity to collect all your guests’ email addresses.
    Having all your guests email addresses can come in very hand in case you need to contact them quickly at the last minute (cancellations or changes in plans due to weather, etc.).
    Also, when my family sent out my daughter’s Bat Mitzvah invitation, we included a card explaining her Mitzvah project and asked guests to bring a wrapped toy to donate, to her celebration. The week before her party, we sent out an email reminding all our guests to bring a wrapped toy, but we found ourselves scrambling for their email addresses. We emailed some and reminded them but did not have all the email addresses.

  5. Nicole says:

    I actually prefer the old fashioned paper RSVP’s. Sometimes people will add a nice message to them and they are a great keepsake to have and look at later!

  6. Jill says:

    Although an email RSVP makes sense from a financial standpoint, it is much less exciting than receiving a card in the mailbox. It was so exciting when my child came home from school to open all the cards and read the personal messages from friends and family!

  7. Rachel says:

    Keep in mind that not everyone is online or feels comfortable using websites to RSVP. I also heard a few stories that people didn’t notice the RSVP email address and thought the RSVP card was just not included!

  8. Heather says:

    A friend of mine used an email RSVP. The only problem she ran into is that she used her child’s name as part of the email address but dropped one or two letters from the name. People don’t always read carefully and as a result many guests RSVP’d to the wrong address because they assumed wrong.

  9. Karen Lieb says:

    Since my affair was formal, I preferred to have my RSVP’s paper based. Not only did some of my guests put their checks in the reply envelope, but we were able to keep the reply cards as a keepsake!

  10. Julia says:

    Some obvious pros are you receive your repsonses faster and you save on postage but sometimes people may forget to respond if they don’t do it right away. It also may go to recipients spam or junk folder.

  11. Elise says:

    I know a lot of families that have opted to use an email RSVP because it saves on printing and stamps!

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