Mom To Mom Advice – Cost-Saving Question

Mom To Mom Advice – Cost-Saving Question

Question – I’m hoping to find ways to save money while planning my son’s Bar Mitzvah. Any suggestions would be appreciated.  


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13 Responses to “Mom To Mom Advice – Cost-Saving Question”

  1. Christine says:

    For me, the key to saving money is time and a good printer. By starting early I was able to make most of the items — centerpieces, favors, invitations, programs, place cards….. This is a huge savings. I also learned that invitations change designs around the holidays, so you can often find the boxed print it yourself invitations for pennies on the dollar. You can embellish using scrapbook supplies, we did rhinestone stickers for my daughters. My son’s Bar Mitzvah isn’t until 2016 but I found great invites for $8 a box for 50, normally $40. I bought everything they have in that design. Start shopping early. If you know the theme than you can start looking for deals. Most of all, have fun!! With time you can enjoy the journey and tap your creative side.

  2. Barb says:

    The color scheme of my son’s Bar Mitzvah was brown and gold. I found this really cool trunk at Home Goods on sale for $20! We had our designer draw the logo on the front and we attached Sharpies with ribbon. It was a great sign-in and we stored all of the keepsakes from his special day in it. Total cost: $35!

  3. Jill says:

    My son needed a suit for my daughter’s Bat Mitzvah. We didn’t have any other family parties coming up in the future, nor were there any reasons why he would need a suit. Also, he’s growing so he probably wouldn’t fit into it the next time he needed it. The thought of buying and altering a suit when he was only going to wear it one time was driving me crazy. A friend suggested renting one from Today’s Man. For $60 they give you a suit(you choose between black, gray or navy), shirt, belt, socks,& shoes. They took all his measurements so when we went back to pick it up the suit fit perfect. All you have to do is find a tie. If you’re ok with a plain suit it’s an excellent option and a great way to save a coupe of bucks!

  4. Lisa says:

    There are several ideas that I have used. For my daughter’s travel theme, I bought luggage tags to use as placecards and a favor. I printed the labels myself. I also made hotel bags myself. I printed directions and letters and shopped at Costco!

  5. Stephanie weinberg says:

    Paperless post !!!! Save thousands on invitations that get thrown away!

  6. Kelly says:

    Ask your venue what they have before going to outside vendors. You would be surprised with their table cloth/napkin color selection or lounge furniture and lighting options.

  7. Jill says:

    I got my kids involved! Instead of paying extra to have my “favor” person wrap their sweatshirts, I took them to Michaels, had them pick a color appropriate ribbon and they tied and wrapped them. Also, my son asked me to make my pumpkin chocolate chip muffins for an exit treat and he wrapped and packaged them himself instead of ordering them from somewhere else. Lastly, we turned our dining room table into an assembly line and stuffed and stamped their invitations ourselves. I know these may sound like small things, but believe the small thing really add up quickly!

  8. Mindi says:

    My friend’s son is does not want to dance at his Bar Mitzvah. His Mom is looking into renting lots of games and can’t believe how much she will save by not having a DJ. A bit untraditional – but it is his day.

  9. Marcy says:

    After you get through planning your first Bar or Bat Mitzvah, you definitely realize there are a few things you could have lived without! For my family, it was the place cards. Although they were great for my daughter’s Bat Mitzvah, it was an expense we could eliminate when it came time for the next celebration. Our caterer had the wait staff approach our guests as the cocktail hour ended and gave them their table number. Worked beautifully and the cost was free!

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